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Tips For Building A Healthy Relationship (With Marriage In View)

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While the early months of a relationship can feel effortless and exciting, successful long-term relationships involve an ongoing effort and compromise by both partners, remember! by both partners. When you are just starting a relationship, it is important to Build a foundation of a foundation of appreciation for each other and respect, Explore each other's interests so you get to make an unending list of things you enjoy doing with each other and, Establish a pattern of apologizing if you make a mistake or hurt your partner's feelings. The following tips can help you create and maintain a healthy relationship.

1. Speak up
In a healthy relationship, if something is bothering you, it is best to talk about it instead of holding it in. To create a safe environment where you can trust and share your opinions openly and freely without being afraid, don't interrupt your partner, even if you need to put your hand over your mouth to stop yourself. No name calling, don't make threats  and apologize when you know you should. If you are too angry to listen, stop! Go into another room or take a walk, just take space for yourself, breath and calm down. Always remember that your partner is not the enemy.

2. Build and cultivate compassion

Try observing yourself and your partner without judging. Though part of you might judge, but don't identify with it cos judging closes doors. The opposite of judging is compassion. When you are compassionate, you would be open, connected and more available to communicate respectfully with your partner. As you learn to do this, that is treating your partner with compassion, you would cultivate the power to choose your response rather than just reacting. Remember, your partners views have value.

3. Ask questions when you are unsure

Don't make assumptions. All too often, we make up our own stories or interpretations about what our partners' behavior might be. We can never err on the side of asking too many questions, and then listen patiently with your whole self when replies are give. Most importantly, take your time to listen to what is not being said- the fact is the feelings you sense might be unspoken. While trying to do this, try to respect each others need for space. Nothing might be wrong really, and try not to police your partner tracking and quoting all he or she says as a weapon to use against your partner when you have difficult times.

4. Separate the facts from your feelings

What feelings and believes get triggered in you during conflicts? The critical question you need to ask: Is it about him or her, or is it really about me? What's the real truth? Once you are able to differentiate the facts from how you feel, you'll see your partner even more clearly and would be open to resolving your conflicts more quickly and with clarity.

5. Create time for your relationship

This is the most important really because all other points listed lye on this one word 'Time'. No matter who you are or what your work might be, you need to nurture your relationship. Make sure you make time for the well-being of your relationship. Remember, the more you tend to your relationship, the more its more likely to grow.

« Last Edit: August 31, 2016, 08:45:34 PM by Timi Dapsin »


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